Notes from a Small Country

Notes from a Danish lockdown

“Take my internet.” Said my neighbour.

“You need to work” He continued.

My wife and I were in the unfortunate position of having to move house 2 weeks ago, right in the middle of Denmark’s COVID-19 lockdown.

Our move was organised before the pandemic hit, and we couldn’t delay as the landlord wanted their house back.

The wait on getting the internet installed at our new rental was over 2 months, mostly due to the number of people working at home and needing fibre optic connections (a super-fast pipe).

One of the most difficult things to give away is kindness; usually, it comes back to you

The next morning the doorbell rang, and there on the doorstep was a small wi-fi router.

On it was a note with the password.

My previous neighbour had left his 4G sim card router, so I could get set up for work that day. I was due my own but it was not scheduled until the following day.

“You’ll need a car, how can you move house without a car?” Said friends whose son attends the same Kindergarten as ours.

“We’ll drop it around with the keys, we have 2 of them and with the lockdown, it will just sit on the driveway anyway.”

So for the day of our move and 7 days after that, we had a car. It was amazing. We would have struggled without it and could not be more grateful.

Every single time you help somebody stand up you are helping humanity rise

COVID 19 has brought out the best in many people. Above are just 2 examples of kindness towards myself and my family. There are many more around the world involving people helping those with illness or isolating alone at home.

I hope you’ve been experiencing the best of the people around you.

Denmark certainly has it’s share of kind and good people.

Recently it’s been praised for it’s handling of the COVID-19 pandemic.

Even before the official lockdown, many Danes (including myself and many of my colleagues) had decided to self-isolate.

The lockdown was a soft one compared to many other countries. There was no stay at home order and many shops remained open.

It seems the Danes didn’t need fines and policing to follow government and WHO advice on social distancing.

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them

The trust in government is so high it’s almost bewildering.

And the government trusts its people too.

It goes both ways.

And pays off nicely.

I’m seeing the government and its people work together, with almost perfect synergy. The type of synergy larger governments in other countries can only dream of.

Compared to those other large countries, Denmark moved early. Restrictions were announced on 11 March, by comparison, this was a full 12 days before lockdown measures were introduced in the UK.

It appears to have helped contain the spread and give time for local healthcare to prepare.

And although there were some problems with people, overall the success of the isolation in Denmark is evident from the number of people admitted to hospital along with the death rate.

As of April 15th, the daily new cases continued to show a decline, with some small spikes.

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Leaders don’t create followers, they create more leaders

So, much of the world is now watching Denmark’s reopening due to its successful management of the pandemic.

The decision to soften the lockdown has been popular amongst Danes in general.

The Prime Minister has said one of the government’s key priorities is getting Danes back to work.

She’s leading the way (along with other global female leaders) and the world is watching.

The culture of Denmark is very focused on people being in work, with the children in kindergarten or school. So the lockdown has been hard on the majority of the nation. It’s actually rare to find a family with only one parent working (much rarer than in the US and UK).

Add to that, the number of families living in apartments and you have a cocktail of practical problems that get worse as time goes on.

So, one of the main focuses has been sending children 11 and younger back to kindergarten or school.

This allows those parents working at home with young children to actually work at home.

For my wife and I, we’re lucky enough that she chose not to work for the first 4 years of our children’s lives. So, while I’m working at home, she is working with the kiddo’s (playing and teaching – it helps that she was a lecturer before becoming a parent).

On top of that, the isolation has been ok for myself and my family. We live simple lives, where we don’t focus on external things to drive our joy.

The best things in life aren’t things

Around 10 years ago my enthusiasm for Stoicism and Buddhism paid off, where I became consistently happy and proud of myself for the first time.

This meant I no longer relied on external situations or ‘things’ to make me happy. I choose my attitude and happiness.

It’s the type of freedom I’d dreamed of for years.

Self-isolation is a phase, one we’re coping with well. I’m proud of how my children are happy and finding joy each day, despite not having left home (except for dog walks) for over a month.

I’m grateful to be able to witness the levels of trust, kindness and self-esteem the Danes demonstrate daily.

And more so now than ever.

There are many people suffering and dying around the world, we feel very lucky to be healthy mentally and physically.

I hope where ever you are, you have the health of mind and body, as well as the kindness of others.

And just maybe…the early and gradual reopening of Denmark proves effective enough, that whatever country you’re in, you can follow the lessons learned and get your life and country back to business as usual too.


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Notes from a Danish lockdown

I’ve been self-isolating with my family for over a week now. All is good and we’re healthy.

What’s been amazing to see is how the Danes have responded to messages from the Prime Minister and Queen.

Upon being asked to take self-isolation seriously and stop panic buying, that’s exactly what most Danes did.

The streets and playgrounds are no longer as crowded and the stores have many of the shelves filled.

Society here, in general, has a culture of caring for others. I’m grateful to be isolating during this time in Denmark (they’re not out buying guns or hoping for herd immunity)

And keeping in the spirit of Danish calm and happiness, here are 2 tips that have been helping me and my family while we’re all at home together 24 hours a day! I hope they help you too.

1. Rewind, Repair and Replay

The 3R’s are a terrific tool for learning to recover when we make mistakes with others. And believe me, when you’re cooped up with loved ones for long periods, you’re going to make mistakes.

My wife and I are getting OK at this now, as we’ve had 7 years of practice (we discovered it through Pam Leo’s Connection parenting), but I do still fail often, and this week was no different.

So, if you find yourself getting stressed and short-fused with those you love, try the 3R’s approach, and remember it’s good for everyone, not just between you and your children.

1. Rewind – Acknowledge internally that you were hurtful or rude

2. Repair – Apologise for what you said and how you said it

3. Replay – Try again, only this time responding with kindness and the intent to connect (this is super important, without replay the repair is not as meaningful)

Here’s a good example from me this week:

In my mind: ‘Oh no, I grabbed Riley (my toddler son) away from the TV as he was pushing it, and I didn’t give him any warning for what I was about to do, he’s now crying and upset.’

To Riley: “I’m sorry I grabbed you without letting you know what I was going to do and why. It was the wrong way to get your attention. I love you (repair)”

To Riley: “Lets start over. I see you were pushing the TV and that’s dangerous, it could break too. Let’s go play with Lego, you’re brother has made a Lego squid, it’s amazing!”

If they can give you context verbally this is also where you listen to them.

2. Focus on optimism

Viktor Frankl once said “The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.”

Your kids and partner are at home and you’re all going crazy?

Just think of all that precious time you have with your loved ones now! If it’s your kids, then wow, you’re all really getting to know each. What about your pet? I bet they’re appreciating having you around? I know if I was one of the millions of dogs left at home for 6-8 hours a day I’d be loving it right now.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed and stressed, remember another Viktor Frankl favourite

“The problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude about the problem”

Optimism is a strategy, not a delusion.

Here’s wishing you health and wellness!


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Notes from a Danish lockdown

Day 2 of working at home while Danish schools and kindergartens are closed.

I and my colleagues are doing our part to slow the spread by not commuting to the office.

I went to get supplies from the local grocery store this morning and there was no bread and very little flour. The store was mostly empty. It’s not like this for every part of Copenhagen, but where I am in the north it appears people have gone on a spending spree for supplies.

We do have plenty of toilet paper which is nice.

I’ve worked at home on and off for 20 years, so I’m comfortable. It’s never occurred to me how many people are not comfortable moving from an office set up to a home office setup.

So while many of us settle or try to settle into working from home, below are 6 tips on how to get productive and stay focused.

1. Don’t assume everyone else you work with wants to hang out over video chat and replicate an open office culture.

If you’re more extroverted, working at home can be a challenge, as social interaction is lost. Yet if you’re more introverted it’s heaven, as you can quietly work without losing energy from lots of interacting with others.

If your company is encouraging even more meetings due to WFH, you could become less productive than ever. Make sure your manager knows your preferences. If you’re a manager make sure you understand your teams’ individual needs for effectiveness.

I’m more introverted and so the chance to WFH is like a dream for me. I miss it and have no problem not over-communicating. Yet many want that, as over-communication can lead to them being more effective.

Enabling the needs for all is the key, not shoving down one way for everyone.

2. Use techniques like Pomodoro for focus.

I’ve written about Pomodoro technique before and it’s terrific. It enables you to get the most out of the time you have.

Turn off slack, turn off Zoom, turn off the internet. Set that timer going and crack on with that task.

3. Don’t be available all the time.

I’ve just spent the last 2 days replying to messages on Slack, it’s crazy.

From Monday I’ll be back to normal and will ensure answering messages but not always right away.

It’s not about ignoring people, it’s about carving out time and focusing. Time is precious, and before you know it you’ll have spent the whole day going back and forth on email or slack or in video calls.

A good segway into…

4. Set boundaries.

If you need to work shifts due to shared parenting, then experiment and make sure your employer and team members know. With the schools closed, you don’t want to turn Netflix into a full-time parent.

So work out your hours, just like you do when in an office. Without this, you’ll be all work and no play, or worse, all work, no play and no parenting.

5. Cardboard will save you.

I don’t have a standup desk at home, so I put a cardboard box on my desk, and the laptop on top, standing to work for a couple of hours each day.

Sitting down takes years off your life. When you’re at home and not getting up and going around the office for meetings, it’s easy to forget to stand.

Before you know it you’re stiffer than a plank of wood and unable to move.

Use a box and stand up.

6. Be grateful

When times are tough and believe me they will be. Kids are off kindergarten, being stuck at home, grocery stores lacking basic supplies, it’s all coming.

Be grateful.

Each morning I write down 3 things I’m grateful for and a daily affirmation. Then in the evening, I write down 3 amazing things that happened and what I’d do differently next time.

I use the 5-minute journal for this, though you could just use paper or do it digitally.

It’s a terrific way to help set your frame of mind and be optimistic, knowing that you’re actually privileged and life is good.

Not everyone can keep their job and work from home.

Stay safe! And keep tuned for more updates from the Danish lockdown.

Here are some good resources to get you started:

How to work from home without losing your mind

Staying focused with the Pomodoro technique

Great tips for parents and non-parents from remote workers

5 tips for staying productive while working at home

Work effectively when you’re short on space

Tips for working in teams and being at home during Corona time


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If your doctor’s last name is Google, It’s time to get a second opinion

“Wake Up Mr Purvis, Wake up”

It was the second week of February and I’d fallen asleep in my doctor’s waiting room.

I don’t remember being quite as ill before that moment. For most of January and February, I’d been in and out of fever with a horrible cough, culminating in me calling the doctor.

It wasn’t long after the first Coronavirus reports coming from China. Yet there was no reason to suspect I had the virus due to no obvious connection at the time (and no reported cases in Denmark), so the doctor was happy to see me.

I was glad, I was beginning to worry it was more than flu.

If you don’t know what you want, you’ll probably never get it

I’d heard plenty of disappointing stories about the Danish health care system.

Denmark has social healthcare very similar to the UK.

Read online and you’ll quickly find disappointing Danish experiences between patient and doctor.

A Danish friend once recommended a doctors appointment is most effective if approached assertively, with almost zero expectation on the doctor driving the conversation and consultation.

So that was my plan.

On my arrival, I was asked to swipe my ID card. It logged me in and the receptionist took me straight to a private room to perform some blood tests.

“Given our conversation on the phone, we’ll test for infections right away,” she said.

After that, I was shown the waiting room. A small room next to the reception. It was a bright area consisting of 6 chairs, a table of wooden toys and a magazine rack. I was the only one there.

Not very big I thought, how could a doctors waiting room only have 6 chairs?

I then fell asleep.

There is nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done at all

Where I live in Denmark, there are many small doctor surgeries rather than one or two larger ones.

This not only seems more efficient, but it also seems to enable a closer relationship between doctor and patient.

I spent 30 minutes with the doctor that morning. I had swabs of my mouth, more blood taken, a full question and answer session, chest examination, nasal and ear examination and advice on how to properly rest and let go of work stress.

It was a very different experience compared to seeing my doctor back in the UK.

I’d taken my Danish friends advice. I’d been respectfully assertive and very clear on my expectations (I’d been in and out of fever, unable to work for 2 weeks and felt extremely ill.) The doctor even had to wake me up in the waiting room, there was certainly no mistaking I needed help.

You think effectiveness with people and efficiency with things

When I think about my experience, it reminds me of flow efficiency*, which is usually at odds with resource efficiency.

It’s something that’s evident in many doctor surgeries across the world.

And it’s not restricted to patient/doctor situations, you’ll have experienced poor flow efficiency in all areas of life.

From your place of work, the roadworks or train ‘improvements’ you encounter, to the postal service or online grocery shopping service you use.

We all need more flow efficiency.

I believe our circumstances can change based on what words we read, hear, and speak

It begins with a mindset, one the Danes have embedded into their culture, consciously or unconsciously (I’m not sure which).

If we take a look at the UK’s National Health Service, where the patient flow is invariably optimised for the people working there (the employees and private businesses that provide services), it’s very easy to see the difference.

In the UK, reception tend to deal only with administration, nurses do separate appointments for blood work, and doctors focus mainly on consultation and prescription writing.

To have the tests and advice I received at my Danish doctor’s would have resulted in me taking several hours off work over the course of separate visits.

There’s also little room for assertiveness, as doctors in the UK rarely respond positively to a collaborative patient/doctor discussion (don’t mention Google!)

To ask, ‘What’s best for me’ is finite thinking. To ask, ‘What’s best for us’ is infinite thinking.

Have you thought about flow efficiency in your life?

Red tape or bureaucracy have resulted in decades of efficiencies optimised for governments, shareholders or business owners. Incredibly, not those a service or business exists for in the first place (e.g. the customer).

In Denmark, it’s refreshingly different. It’s not perfect and I know I may have been lucky with my doctor’s experience compared to others.

Yet it reminds me of what it was like as a kid in the 1980’s. When many services and businesses still existed for the customer.

They had an infinite** mindset instead of a finite one.

Common sense is genius dressed in its working clothes

Common sense is missing in our lives more than ever.

And thinking ‘us’ instead of ‘me’ is common sense.

Denmark appears to have a deeper infinite mindset among its people than most countries I’ve been to.

You may be turned on or turned off by its socialism? Yet Socialism in the rest of the world tends to focus on disliking the rich.

In Denmark, Socialism is more about true respect for all, lifting everyone together.

It’s still a capitalist country, just one with true regard for everyone (not just the rich).

To heal illness, begin by restoring balance

So what was my illness?

The tests came back positive for aggressive seasonal flu. One that would not have been long-lasting had I taken the flu shot (lesson learned).

It also hit me hard as I’d lost balance in my life. Since the summer I’d begun to work non stop from the moment I got on the train in the morning, to when I stepped onto the platform in the evening.

Trying to be hyper-productive had ironically led to higher stress and a weakened immune response to seasonal viruses.

So now I’m back to meditating on my commute using the Headspace app on my phone. I write less content for LinkedIn as spend that time reading, and I organise my work more effectively by being in tune with how I feel, rather than ignoring it.

My flow efficiency is much greater than it’s ever been.

Here’s wishing you yours too.


*Flow Efficiency is a term used in the book This is Lean by Niklas Modig

**Finite and Infinite games are the basis of the book The Infinite Game by Simon Sinek

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