Gabby Reece, athlete, author, mum and wife often talks of  “going first.” I first heard it as part of a Tim Ferriss interview with Laird Hamilton (her husband and famously talented surfer) .  Going first means making the initial eye contact or being the first one to say “hello” as you pass someone or stand in a queue at the post office.

I’ve been doing this for a long while now and the results can be amazing, positive and mostly appreciated. It’s too easy to opt out of action, so making a conscious effort to go first is a great way to add confidence and positive tension to your life, all while spreading a little happiness along the way.

I’ve noticed the by-product and carry on of ‘going first’ has been my initiative. I’ve been more willing to initiate a difficult conversation, start that task I’ve been putting off and overcome phases of unhappiness.

I continue to write ‘go first’ in my daily journal each morning to remind me. It also sets me up with a daily approach focused on positive connection.

Try it, you’ll be amazed how it makes you (and others) feel.