More recently I’ve had the opportunity to turn left, turn right or keep moving straight on. I’ve made a few life changing choices that have led me to experience unfamiliar emotions, places and people. On reflection can all of this really be random and do we as people have control of our lives?
For many the belief in a masterplan is necessary thinking, otherwise life is just a random sequence of events and choices. The masterplan can also be akin to a safety net and like serving a God, serving a masterplan can relinquish a level of responsibility in life, after all “it was meant to be”.
I go big on making choices in my life, yet what intrigues me now more than ever is whether these choices really do control my experiences and destinations. Do we really have a choice in who we meet, love and the places we visit and live?
For me this question gets more interesting when I think of the times in my life where I had little or no choice. As a baby left alone in a playpen or cot throughout the day and night, as a toddler told I could been seen and shouldn’t be heard and as an impressionable youngster emotionally wrecked till I couldn’t face being around people anymore. I either couldn’t make a choice or didn’t realise I had any available. Was the Marcus fate train on its tracks and I the passenger being taken to all the various stops of its choosing? Did fate cement my foundational experiences and shape me for my life to come?
Perhaps it’s my choice to make a choice or is fate the reason I now have a choice? Do the choices I make all lead to the place or people fate intended anyway? What really is fate and are the choices I’ve made simply controlling the journey to where fate has already determined I’m going?
In the last 6 months I’ve become more open to fate and the idea of a masterplan. I’m not serving it, I’m still making choices yet it seems more and more credible that fate is part of my life and balancing choice with fate helps my happy existence. We can’t choose our genes though we can choose how to live with them.
So, although we own our own story, has fate put the framework for our story in place well in advance? Maybe.. either way balancing total control and going where life takes you is probably the path to happiness and it’s one I’m learning to get better at each day.